Assalamualaikum.
Life is just all about how we live it.
But its only by His qada' n qadar that we should rely upon and belief in.
Marriage life are also facing challenges all the way.
miscommunications, quarrel, fights, silent treatment,
you name it..
how do we handle it?
i had my fair share of arguments also with my dear beloved ,
its really disturbing and heart aching everytime we fought,
its also ' time wasting '
But you will never be dissapointed when you turned to Allah His All Mighty for help.
The most recent fights we had, I was clearly stubborn enough to let it go even though my dear beloved seems to already forget about it and has started to spoke to me,
and I was in a derange state whether or not to let it go or be all hard on him,
until the next morning, I was on the internet and browsing and had found out about habib umar bin hafiz a well known and important scholars alive today and his a descendent of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH, through his grandson Imam Hussain, may Allah be pleased with him. The 39th generation from Rasulullah PBUH.
Its just so wonderful and mesmerizing how there is such possibility for us today to see the descendant of the most missed Prophet Muhammad SAW. Allah is Great.
and all this has make me realized that Allah will never failed us and will always show His guidance to us no matter what are the way or through whom ever He pleases..
I had taken granted of this current state I'm in and asked Him, how would I ever be able to clear my mind and make peace with my dear beloved sincerely..
and than i opened the magazine i was reading the night before and i was on a topic " selesaikan masalah hanya dengan pasangan " ( settle your problem only with your spouse ), i did not finished the article when i already dozed off to sleep.
but that morning when i had that question in my mind for Allah to show me guidance, as I picked up again the magazine to continue on the article, this is what i read..
Bercakap dengan pasangan
Namun demikian, adalah lebih baik sekiranya masalah yang dihadapi itu diselesaikan dengan pasangan. Sekiranya salah seorang membicarakan tentang pasangannya pada orang lain, dikhuatiri timbulnya ketidaksesuaian dan ketidakpuasan yang tidak disampaikan dengan baik kepada pasangan. maka disinilah bermulanya saat penting untuk anda membiasakan diri menyampaikan apa sahaja masalah kepada pasangan . Cuba nyatakan dengan pola komunikasi yang baik terhadapa pasangan.
usah menunggu pasangan kita yang memulai bicara. Yakinlah sekuat mana sekalipun kita berusaha untuk mengabaikan masalah yang sedang terjadi, keadaan yang tercipta kan tetap tidak tenteram dan aman. Lakukan sesuatu untuk mengatasi masalah, dan buanglah jauh-jauh anggapan siapakah yang berhak untuk memulakan bicara.
semasa membincangkan masalah, gunakan bahasa yang sangat baik dan lembut. bukankah Allah SWT menyuruh kita untuk saling memberi nasihat dalam kesabaran dan kebaikan? dan bukankah membiarkan masalah yang berlarutan itu hanya akan membuang waktu, fikiran dan emosi yang seharusnya kita gunakan untuk hal yang lebih baik?
" Demi masa. Sesungguhnya manusia benar-benar dalam keadaan yang rugi. Kecuali mereka yang beriman dan beramal soleh, serta saling menasihati dalam kebenaran dan saling menasihati dalam kesabaran. " (Al-Ashr 103: 1-3 )
mulakan dari sekarang untuk membiasakan diri menyelesaikan masalah dengan tepat bersama orang yang tepat. tinggalkan kebiasaan berdiam diri dan kemudiannya meluahkan kepada orang lain. Percayalah hal ini tidak akan mendatangkan hasil, sebaliknya lebih banyak mudaratnya. untuk itu mulakan bicara untuk apa yang anda harapkan padanya, sekarang!
majalah i ; okt 2010
the answer to my disturb mind and heart ache, point blank. absolute answer from Him through my unfinished reading.
Allah has His way of showing us guidance. Ways that we would never imagine possible. Turn to only Him for help and He will never fail us. Ameen.
