asas. always the best!

just to share on my reading on the topic of natural parenting.

1. breast feed our child

that it is the most exclusive privilege we can gv our baby. the 1st milk is the icing on a cake. excuses wont be getting us any where. once our mind say we cant, it'll just not happen. talk to others, be more informatives. don't give up. its like giving up on your child even right after they were born.

2. sleep

modern westernized thought that you separate your baby from the day they were born. but holding to our baby, the intimacy relation between us are the most important especially in the really early stages of his life. maybe at about 3 they are ready to sleep by themselves.

3. mommy's home cookin'

we always remember  our mom's cooking. we always want to feel the need to have this meals especially when we were away so long. because mom's cook are something that bond a family. so how busy we get.in a week at least prepare a little something for the family even if its just 1 meal.

4. teaching

no school can compare to the value of the school of thoughts. whatever we experience is a contributor. get our kids involved in our activities as this experience will be with them as they are growing up.

5. say no to chemicals

junk foods? snacks? bottles ? diapers? how do this effect our babies life in the long run. may be we should slowly stop this. start it with baby steps.

6. Dua'

after ou prayer. never forget our dua' for our babies. when they have already asleep. recite Ya Latif..Ya Latif.. and leave Allah to provide His Greatness

as being thought by Rasulullah SAW :

i. 1st 7 yrs. time to pamper our babies, no tough disciplinary action, no spanking. Caress them touch them full with our love. Hugs n Kisses. also listen. treat our babies as equals.

ii. 2nd 7 yrs. if they do any unacceptable action, they have to be responsible on it. if they dont perform their solah, they are a need to cane them but only on their palm and do it with love not fury as this is important to their understanding that all their action comes with responsibilities.

iii. 3rd 7 yrs. they are no cane needed at this stage. they are more vulnerable about their feelings. we need to be more approachable.develope trust and friendship. always listen to their needs. maybe recall back on how we were at this age. they also has to speak their mind and we shall be able to guide them through.

so parents! it is not a walk in the park to raise a child. it is not for us to take this lightly. every moments count as a memories that we instill in our childs' mind. every little things we do thought our child somethings which could have an impact to their lives. but whatever it is or how difficult.. a walk in the park sometimes is just the solutions.

xoxo ;)

i'm disturbed

salam ramadhan. this has been a disturbing few days for me. It has been going on for far too long. apa nak jadik dengan komuniti kita hari nih? hari2 pon mesti ada news. social problem. umat Islam yang telah pudar jati dirinya. Banyak sangat sosial problem yang berlaku di sekeliling kita.

I'm thinking of it as a challenge for us and opportunity to be better. What has been the caused of all this nonsense. Jahil kita hari ini adalah lebih jahil dari umat jahiliyah pada zaman Rasulullah SAW. At least that time there has no guidance, no religion for them to hold on to. But us now are clearly has been a borne Muslim and Islam are our faith and believes. But yet we are much worse than the "Jahiliyah". 

Terlalu kejam kita dalam menidakkan hak asasi manusia walaupun sekecil bayi yang belum mengerti walau setitik nilai kehidupan. Anak-anak yang dahagakan kasih sayang dan bimbingan tetapi tidak memperolehinya malah ibu bapa sendiri pun tidak dapat dipercayai. Remaja-remaja hilang identiti diri. Jati diri langsung tiada dalam hati. Kehidupan ikutan barat yang jadi pegangan dan matlamat yang tidak nyata. 

Zina itu perkara biasa dalam kehidupan zaman moden. Moden ke? Apa yang berlandaskan budaya barat itu moden. Ade ke? Bukan semua nilai dari barat itu tak baik. Malah ada yang patut kita contohi. Like their ways of showing loves with hugs and kisses publicly but of course for us yang halal dan sopan sahaja kan. Or their reading habits. But than we tend to follow those negatives culture. Apa tak reti berfikir kah kita. Tak dapat nak bezakan yang baik dan buruknya. Pakaian kita yang terdorong dengan etika pakaian barat yang less is more... club?...drinking and smoking.... sedang sekolah dulu ustazah dah ajar itu kencing syaitan... but still dek nak dikatakan moden and in...wah bukan main hebat menikmati....pandai pulak tuh with the different types and ways to have it. And worse still flip in some of our magazines.... adalah ruangan or pages of some event held and this so called socialite attended it was of course some of them was well known muslim and proudly holding a wine glass. Hebat sangatkah...class kah?.... Nauzubillah....

Moral of the story... Marilah kita beramai2 fikir sejenak. Look into the root cause of the dilemma we are facing today. What is our contribution. What we can do! Semoga Allah memberi petunjuk kepada kita! Amin. Wassalam

hihihi.........

it has been a while...yes....
apa ke hal nye dengan my blogs ye????
i wonder....

well, a lot have happen since my fasting month post.
let me see....
apa ye???

hmmm raya this year with my beloved family. almost all were together.. just my sis turn (1st yr ) to im's (hubby) family side celebrate the 1st day raya in bangsar ( so far huh...), we also got to take our family portrait this year....hajat my mum yang bertahun sudahnya...


red is it!

so, manage to go back home town to my hubby's malacca also on the 2nd raya and this year yahoo!!! got leave longer than forever. so went to a lot of my aunts' and uncles' and other relatives. so went back to work on sunday...( yep! saya ade kena bekerja on sunday ).

so ceritera raya adalah tak lain open house...open house...open house...dan unopen house also..


my BFF at my home.... thx mama


the hostess noriz n aman n family tq....sedap nasi tomato



with Qaseh... thx ibu for your home made mee...

and there were other's home sweet home we went also..
rozs' yummylicious pasta
taas' sweet new baby aaron
mak longs' best ever sambal and nasi beriani
mokdes' mee
and at kampung, all the rendang...mmmmm
and others, kak lin, busu dan lain-lain ye...

so the story for raya this year are fun...fun..fun..food...food..food...Alhamdullillah

play firework....

pada suatu malam ramadhan 1430

mereka2 yang ade disini

pak ngah yang lebih nih

izk nih takut nak main. dia tolong handout the stick saje

it's time of the year to play the fireworks. supply by un. im. thanks un im. izn was having a blast this year to play. more courage. my izk still 'akut' to play. so he has become the official handing out firework stick to the player. maybe later. pak ngah was the most enjoyable player for the night. mama said to im " nih dorang nih tak merase nak main mase kecik dulu" . meaning: our dad forbid this firework to be played when we were small. tak de can nak main laa. curi2 main tuh adela. tu pon stick saje.

so more fun ke with this firework to celebrate raya?

to my daughter

this entry dedicated to my darling and wonderful dotter iz* nu* di** aka kakak. she is only 4 1/2 but she definitely is bigger than her age... pakai baju 6, 7 thn okay... her hair has never been cut so sayang... plus she's not letting her lovely lock to be zasss.

she's quite character and mature also. taking care of the brother ( walaupun ada jugaklh bergaduhnye ) but most of the time rajin la layan adiknye yang banyak kerenah itu....

as for the pics above menunjukkan how a drama queen and kaki pose nye my dot nih. i guess she got it a lot from my mom. i mean the liang liuknye. coz it definitely not from me hihihi.




among other stuff, izz nur n joys:
1. singing esp now the most sung song is terlanjur cinta by rossa.
2. loves to dance.
3. loves pink and purple ( very the girlish kan...unlike the mother )
4. so mase entry nih she insisted to choose this color. ( selagi tak tukar memang tak puas hati ok)
5. she has already learn to read iqra'
5. loves to buy books... ( tapi bacenye very the kureng....)
6. susah sangat nak kiss orang. bila forced to kiss she will wipe her mouth even ibunye pon. ...sungguh kurang sopan tau.
7. when asked what she wants to be when grow up. she wants to be a dentist.... amin insya allah
8. sangat suka mencelah bila orang tgh guna pc. pantang tinggal ade je game yang dia jumpa. amongst her fav.. taxi, sims, zuma and yang we download from cereal box pon she explored..(sedangkan the parents pon tak lepas lagi..) yang kat yahoo pon dia je dominate

so my baby as you are growing up... a lot of things being learnt and being thought by you or by me...i love you

more of my sis wedding

So the kenduri was held at dewan dr siti hasmah and it's dinner time. She's so into the white wedding dress and so the family is wearing red. Nira, you look beeeauuutiful and the handsome groom im looking good.

My mom and dad was super tired afterwards. And oh! yeah thanks a million to the whole family whom had lend helping hands to make the wedding a perfect event. U guys roock!

There were the biggest hiccup ever though. ( To those came, on behalf of our family we apologize and soo sorry for the big mess, and for whatever after effect you guys gotten after ).

And thanks for all the best wishes and doa for the bride n groom. Hope too see you soon as another wedding is coming this year, Insya Allah.

the preparation

the red and white theme

the event n family photo

beloved sis

My one and only sister are married. To her childhood (ke?) boyfriend. They've been together like forever. Whom my babies called uncle im and for my boy calling him kim... so the solemnisation was on april 25th, 2009 and the veneu was masjid wilayah kl. They're wearing light yellow, hence the handflower modelled on the left pic here are yellow roses...



So hey sis! congratulations and semoga kekal ke akhir hayat. Sis, remember now you are a wife. Jangan derhaka pada suami. Taat pada suami coz you know.. syurga di bawah tapak kaki suami. Talk to your husband politely and dont raise your voice. Always ask forgiveness from him every night before sleep. Always be the one to prepare meals for your hubby kay, the least pun buat air untuk dia everyday. To Im, hope you will be the best captain of the 'bahtera' that you have just built, be the one to guide your beloved wife through the rightful life of our religion. Whatever problem arises ( memang akan tempuh banyak sangat nanti ) you have to be the man with the clearer head. Jangan mudah mengucapkan perkataan2 kesat atau kasar pada isteri. Dan yang paling penting! tolak ansur. So, both you guys abg izt n I doakan jodoh korang kekal sepanjang hayat. And for IZN dia pesan nak baby cepat2. IZK loves to play with the baby too. So work hard you all. ;)