Monday, February 28, 2011

asas. always the best!

just to share on my reading on the topic of natural parenting.

1. breast feed our child
that it is the most exclusive privilege we can gv our baby. the 1st milk is the icing on a cake. excuses wont be getting us any where. once our mind say we cant, it'll just not happen. talk to others, be more informatives. don't give up. its like giving up on your child even right after they were born.

2. sleep
modern westernized thought that you separate your baby from the day they were born. but holding to our baby, the intimacy relation between us are the most important especially in the really early stages of his life. maybe at about 3 they are ready to sleep by themselves.

3. mommy's home cookin'
we always remember  our mom's cooking. we always want to feel the need to have this meals especially when we were away so long. because mom's cook are something that bond a family. so how busy we get.in a week at least prepare a little something for the family even if its just 1 meal.

4. teaching
no school can compare to the value of the school of thoughts. whatever we experience is a contributor. get our kids involved in our activities as this experience will be with them as they are growing up.

5. say no to chemicals
junk foods? snacks? bottles ? diapers? how do this effect our babies life in the long run. may be we should slowly stop this. start it with baby steps.

6. Dua'
after ou prayer. never forget our dua' for our babies. when they have already asleep. recite Ya Latif..Ya Latif.. and leave Allah to provide His Greatness
as being thought by Rasulullah SAW :
i. 1st 7 yrs. time to pamper our babies, no tough disciplinary action, no spanking. Caress them touch them full with our love. Hugs n Kisses. also listen. treat our babies as equals.

ii. 2nd 7 yrs. if they do any unacceptable action, they have to be responsible on it. if they dont perform their solah, they are a need to cane them but only on their palm and do it with love not fury as this is important to their understanding that all their action comes with responsibilities.

iii. 3rd 7 yrs. they are no cane needed at this stage. they are more vulnerable about their feelings. we need to be more approachable.develope trust and friendship. always listen to their needs. maybe recall back on how we were at this age. they also has to speak their mind and we shall be able to guide them through.

so parents! it is not a walk in the park to raise a child. it is not for us to take this lightly. every moments count as a memories that we instill in our childs' mind. every little things we do thought our child somethings which could have an impact to their lives. but whatever it is or how difficult.. a walk in the park sometimes is just the solutions.



xoxo ;)

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