how do we think?

i'm inspired. its so true and worth watching! parents lets watch and ponder on the essence of him pointing out something we had all been neglecting..

are we an avid user of our right side brain?..watch the video an realize how we have been putting a stop on exploring our brain creatvity potential.

saya dapat wake up call

i was reading a book by the successful trainer dr. azizan colaberating with the ever controversial writer s.h. alattas titled ' rahsia menjadi kaya & berjaya dunia & akhirat '. baru bace 3rd chapter. saya dah terkesima.

tajuknye anak melayu sekolah cina. pengalaman dr. azizan yang bersekolah cina. beliau berkongsi beberapa pemerhatian dan yang buat saya terkesima tu..

quote: ' bangsa cina amat menekankan yang anak mereka diberi pendidikan dan latihan yang menyediakan mereka untuk berniaga dan buat duit melalui perniagaan. mereka menekankan yang perniagaan adalah satu BUDAYA. mereka telah mengamalkan apa yang Rasulullah SAW katakan bahawa PERNIAGAAN ADALAH 9/10 DARIPADA SUMBER REZEKI! Kita? 1/10? '

pic credit : pak habib blog

saya rasa terpukul. betapa cetek pemikiran kita. but we actually do NOT practically follow sunnah and Al-Quran as we are born muslim and we have this BUDAYA or cultural lifestyle where we do a lot of negotiation in terms of our life as Muslim.

I am one of that! practically negotiating all the way! But I want to be better. I want to learn the path straight forward no twist as I know that I might die tomorrow being an ignorant. I am looking and finding and learning... see i think i'm negotiating again...

Wallahualam

sedar tak sedar

saw a snap shot tagged to a friend today...

2 kids at the age of about 6 or 7...

a boy and a girl....

a snap shot of them kissing...on the lips...

with the boy's hand cupping the girls cheek...

sangat intimate...an imitation of an adult kissing...

call me old fashion... what eva..

what are we really thinking... cute ke?...

we need to start to be more sensitives of our childrens action...

siblings or not boys and girls are not suppose to be acting or doing anything more than a peck in the cheek...

so they are only babies...

show loves towards others with respect and modesty..

we are not goin' to instill any kind of backwards thinking into our babies.. even if they are merely a newborn..

remember they have stronger memories when they are still at this age...

they absorbed everything like sponge...

so we need to built the ground work now..

its totally ironic... when we say islamic life style are old and too stringent...

the western are more modern, open and easy going...

just look around us people

what's becoming of our nation, our future generation...

are we happy with the social condition today...

is this really something normal that we want to live in...

i'm asking myself this question over and over again...

i am no better than anyone else...

and 100% no intention of condemning others...

but i am afraid and worried for my future generation...

how are they going to be able to live in such a community...

what are their understanding...

what are their belief...

where are they heading to in their life...

semoga Allah beri hidayah-Nya pada saya...

I just wants to have His blessing...

Need Him to remind me of my purpose in life coz this is merely a journey which the ends are more real and eternity.. 

tiamo

pic courtesy tiamo

me and my shoes crazed..

best nih at tiamo...get ballerina flats or pumps at varieties of colors coz the designs are just too many..

cant wait to get one especially the pair that's for mommy and childs which is totally cool!

its available at the gardens midvalley and sunway pyramid.

definitely a worth buy.



asas. always the best!

just to share on my reading on the topic of natural parenting.

1. breast feed our child

that it is the most exclusive privilege we can gv our baby. the 1st milk is the icing on a cake. excuses wont be getting us any where. once our mind say we cant, it'll just not happen. talk to others, be more informatives. don't give up. its like giving up on your child even right after they were born.

2. sleep

modern westernized thought that you separate your baby from the day they were born. but holding to our baby, the intimacy relation between us are the most important especially in the really early stages of his life. maybe at about 3 they are ready to sleep by themselves.

3. mommy's home cookin'

we always remember  our mom's cooking. we always want to feel the need to have this meals especially when we were away so long. because mom's cook are something that bond a family. so how busy we get.in a week at least prepare a little something for the family even if its just 1 meal.

4. teaching

no school can compare to the value of the school of thoughts. whatever we experience is a contributor. get our kids involved in our activities as this experience will be with them as they are growing up.

5. say no to chemicals

junk foods? snacks? bottles ? diapers? how do this effect our babies life in the long run. may be we should slowly stop this. start it with baby steps.

6. Dua'

after ou prayer. never forget our dua' for our babies. when they have already asleep. recite Ya Latif..Ya Latif.. and leave Allah to provide His Greatness

as being thought by Rasulullah SAW :

i. 1st 7 yrs. time to pamper our babies, no tough disciplinary action, no spanking. Caress them touch them full with our love. Hugs n Kisses. also listen. treat our babies as equals.

ii. 2nd 7 yrs. if they do any unacceptable action, they have to be responsible on it. if they dont perform their solah, they are a need to cane them but only on their palm and do it with love not fury as this is important to their understanding that all their action comes with responsibilities.

iii. 3rd 7 yrs. they are no cane needed at this stage. they are more vulnerable about their feelings. we need to be more approachable.develope trust and friendship. always listen to their needs. maybe recall back on how we were at this age. they also has to speak their mind and we shall be able to guide them through.

so parents! it is not a walk in the park to raise a child. it is not for us to take this lightly. every moments count as a memories that we instill in our childs' mind. every little things we do thought our child somethings which could have an impact to their lives. but whatever it is or how difficult.. a walk in the park sometimes is just the solutions.

xoxo ;)

how do i do it

how do i do it...

a question mark definitely... not a statement...

its been around my head...on..and onn...

pheeww...

how do you make a difference...

how can you give a great impact...

i'm soooo hesitant... i want to be an executor...

i dont wanna be just mere procastinator...

i wanna act on it...

i've alwayss have ideas...big smalll... realistic ..not realistic...

tons..and  tons...of idea... but it always ended up as ideas...only...

i need a kick in the b**t i guess..

i wanna change so bad...my head ache...

i wanna live my dreams..

i wanna leave a mark, an impact to other peoples lives...

at least most of all to my babies...

i think i'm simply being greedy..

i wanna do too many things... i aint focusing...

probably due to that,

i'm in this confusion..

well than i must start to act small and let it snowball ...

but one thing for sure...

its all His call. it'll be what He want it to be..

and He most definitely knows whats best for me...

but I shall cherished every moments..

walk every paths with my head held high...

proud that He is still giving me this chance to breath and make the most

of my being to work harder to enjoy my life and yes to be a

better muslim..

Insya Allah

home sweet home

how's this your space got invaded. your most secure and safe space you called home.

Allah test us all the times. i take this as another test by Him.

but Alhamdulillah there was no one home but i just cant imagine if we were in. my babies.

i've been in a blurry mode since last night. the thought  of someone uninvited entring my house and touching my things...

we are taking higher precautions. this is not some simple things that can be dealt easily. secure our home. lock it more... and always look around us before unlocking our home.

Pray for Allah to protect us from any danger and maniacs.